Chances are you never planned to have a divorce conversation when marrying your spouse. However, if the marriage is no longer working, it may be time for the talk.
So, how do you tell someone you still care for and respect that you want to end the marriage?
Here are four tips to help you:
Make sure you want the divorce
Changing your mind about the divorce after informing your spouse can make things awkward in your marriage. Thus, you should be certain you want it before the conversation.
It may be best to talk to a therapist first to obtain tools that can help you determine if you want to give the marriage another try or you want out.
Of course, you should be respectful and considerate when talking to your spouse about a divorce, but you should be honest. If you are unhappy, state so. If you believe you have grown apart, let them know, and so on. Your spouse deserves adequate information concerning the end of their marriage.
Choose an appropriate time
The time you choose to have the divorce conversation matters. You don’t want to do it when you and your spouse are not in the best state of mind, for instance, during an argument.
It may also not be best to inform them when they are leaving for work, after a long workday or when they are going out. Consider having the conversation when they are relaxed, preferably on the weekends.
Acknowledge your spouse’s feelings
When you inform your spouse about the divorce, it will be best to acknowledge their feelings. You should listen to their concerns and let them express themselves.
Deciding you want a divorce is a major step. It will help to get legal guidance to protect your interests.