It cannot be emphasized enough that this is a consequential choice that requires careful consideration of various factors, as the well-being and security of the children at issue are at stake. Therefore, it’s understandable that many parents may feel overwhelmed when trying to settle on one individual over another. Considering the following is a good way to get started.
If you’re trying to select a guardian for your kids, know that choosing someone whose values and beliefs align with your own is generally a good idea, as you likely want their upbringing to (relatively) mirror the one that you aspire to provide for them. You likely want their situation to reflect the principles and morals you deem important if you can’t be there to teach your kids those beliefs yourself.
Your chosen guardian should also be emotionally and physically capable of raising children. Their health, energy levels and overall stability will affect their ability to provide for your child. It’s also important to consider whether any individual under consideration has the patience and resilience to take on the responsibility of parenting, especially under potentially sudden and tragic circumstances.
Finally, before finalizing your decision, you’ll want to have an open and honest conversation with your potential guardian candidate to ensure they are willing and prepared to take on this responsibility. Discuss your expectations, the support they will have and any concerns they may have about guardianship so that you can make a truly informed decision.
There is nothing more precious to you than your kids. Taking the time to thoughtfully select a potential guardian will help to ensure that their interests remain protected if you are no longer able to safeguard them yourself.
]]>All that being said, there are some strong arguments in favor of informing teachers about an upcoming divorce. Here are three reasons to do so.
Whether or not they are intended to be a support system for a child, this is often what teachers become. The child may have questions, concerns or worries. The more that the teacher knows about what is happening in that child’s life, the better they can provide guidance and support when necessary.
Additionally, teachers may notice changes in the classroom. Maybe the child has emotional outbursts over things that wouldn’t have bothered them before. Maybe their academic progress starts to slow down. The teacher can counteract some of these things more effectively if they know why it’s happening and what to look out for.
From a safety perspective, it’s also wise to inform the school just so they will know if there are any changes to the pickup and drop-off schedule. Who should drop the children off in the morning? Who is legally allowed to take them from school in the afternoon? You don’t want to have any confusion over this.
If you and your spouse are moving toward a divorce, talking to the teacher is just one area to consider. Carefully look into your legal options while dividing parenting time responsibilities, marital assets and much more.
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