Telling your kid (s) about a divorce can be difficult. You should be careful when doing it to avoid causing effects that can last years. Thus, it will help to employ practical tips to make the process more manageable for you and the children.
Here is how to tell your children about your divorce.
Tell the truth
When you sit down with your children, be ready to tell them the truth. You don’t need to explain the specifics of the divorce, but they should know you and the other parent have irreconcilable issues and have decided to go your separate ways.
This is why it’s crucial to only talk to the kids when you are sure you want a divorce. Telling them, “This is only temporary, we will solve it,” and going through with the divorce is traumatizing. After this conversation, your children should understand their new reality.
Tell them they are loved
Even though it seems insignificant, reminding your kids they are loved can make a difference. Thus, use sentences, such as:
- ” We love you and will continue to”
- “You will feel safe in both homes”
- “The divorce has nothing to do with you,” and so on.
These statements let your kids know they are not to blame and their relationships with both parents will not change.
Answer questions honestly
Of course, your children will have questions, from how their new life will look to who they will live with. Regardless of the questions they raise, answer honestly without overwhelming them with information. For questions you haven’t figured out yet, let them know so.
How you tell your kids about your divorce is crucial. Further, it will be best to get legal help to protect your parental rights to maintain a relationship with them.
